The other day, while shopping for groceries at the market, I overheard two moms converse and it got me thinking (I know they must have been moms because of the nature of conversation). It went something like:
Mom A: So the August holidays are here *insert shrug*
Mom B: Oh, I do not need a reminder. They are coming home for a couple of weeks.
Mom A: They eat so much, and are generally a pain in the house…
Mom B: You can say that again… I can’t wait for the weeks to whizz by so they get back to school…
Mom A: Me too *insert facial expression to complete the statement*
Then the topic changed to something else, but I was stuck at this conversation for many days to come. I asked myself, why is it so easy to want the kids to stay in school as opposed to spending time with them once they are home, which incidentally, is very few months. Consider this: Kids, on average, start Kindergarten at about 3 years. They will be in school till they are 18. During this period, ¾ of the year is spent in school with just 3 months for holiday. For the 15 years the child is in school – from Kindergarten to High school- , they will only be home for 45 months. For a whopping 135 months, they will be away from home.
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For those 45 months, we need to remember all the visits to grandma’s, uncles, aunts, school trips, church programs… are not accounted for. The point is, a critical look at the amount of time the kids are actually home reveals so much more. Yet even in this limited time, the general notion is that kids are bothersome, they are a handful, they are annoying, they spike the budget (hello moms with boys!), they interrupt our daily schedules…
That conversation challenged me to take an introspective look and see what my attitude as regards my son’s holiday is. I am not painting a perfect-got-it-all-together front. I know I am guilty as charged in letting these very statements come out of my mouth, and sometimes whispered in the heat of the tantrum. But, this holiday, I want it to be different.
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I want this holiday to be one during which we will learn the essence of each other, and not just for my little to remember the mom who was constantly working her butt off but had no time to play with him….
I want this holiday to be one during which we will bond in new ways; over coloring books, or pancake recipes or mounds of wet mud…
I want this holiday to be one during which we will put into practice what we have picked up during our therapy sessions in the month of August…
I want this to be the last holiday I ever look at through the lenses of ‘what a bothersome period the holidays are going to be’.
It is off to a good start.
Adult coloring x child coloring