I remember seeing the two lines and spending the rest of the day in a haze, alternating between contagious excitement and intense anxiety,
I remember thinking twice, no thrice, actually multiple times about my abilities as a mom-to-be,
I remember getting through the craves and aversions, and always having an excuse that ‘baby does not want this or that’,
Then the fluttery kicks began and I fell in love with someone I was yet to meet,
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I remember drinking cold water and the kicks would set in earnestly,
I remember staring down at my belly and not been able to catch a glimpse of my toes,
I remember the build up to D-day during the Christmas festivities and waddling around home waiting to pop,
All my expectations, all my hopes, all my excitement, I anticipated motherhood, but still had a few worries at the back of my mind. Single parenting seemed so daunting, yet, here I was already.
I became a mom one fine Tuesday morning, and with it my life changed forever.
The whole labour and delivery process, while without complications, really got to me,
I remember the sleepless nights like it were yesterday,
The incessant crying, the inexplicable shrieks, the colic episodes dead in the night, all of which culminated in sleepless nights for days on end,
I was starting to lose my sanity, slowly under the weight of the demands that new motherhood places on women. I remember that bonding with my newborn was not automatic the way I had anticipated.
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But weren’t moms meant to enjoy this blissful stage? Why couldn’t I? Why was I so irritable, and so damn angry?
I remember the intense anger and bitterness I harbored, perfectly masked in social settings, but aptly pulled down at dusk when the world went to sleep and I was left fighting the depression demons, feeling hopeless, helpless and utterly inadequate to be a mom.
I remember crying on many days and nights, the sobs soaking my pillow and hair, his soft breathing on my chest as he nursed. I couldn’t reconcile what I felt with what I expected before he was born. I was at a loss of words and totally broken on the inside.
I remember questioning my abilities as a mom, and slowly sliding into a dark hole. It felt lonely, it was lonely. No one seemed to understand.
I remember Googling ‘Why do I hate my baby so much’ and learning that there was a high likelihood I was suffering from Postpartum Depression. This flooded my heart with relief, as it did fear, fear of the unknown.
I remember learning just about everything I could on Postpartum Depression (PPD) because information is power, and because it was helpful knowing I was not alone in this. The virtual communities and forums created for Postpartum Depression were a huge blessing.
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I remember vividly the struggle of walking through the haze of Postpartum Depression, wondering whether it will ever get better. I am glad it did, I am glad I got help. To think there’s a mama struggling right now, is why I am passionate about creating more awareness on PPD.
I remember, and so I will speak more about Postpartum Depression.
If you suspect you may be suffering from Postpartum Depression, do not be afraid to ask for help. Talk to your doctor about it or get in touch on the Contact Page and we will direct you to professionals. If you are looking for a comprehensive resource center for the same, do check out Postpartum Progress.